Category: Dating and Relationships
Real Boyfriend.......(copied and pasted) lol Share
Today at 9:43 pm
All right so i did not write this. I don't even know who wrote this. I just copped it from a friends page.
I Don't care if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend right now.
I don't care if you are a guy or a woman or Michael Jackson.
Just read this, it will make a difference.
If only everyone could see this and understand it.
When she stares at your mouth
Kiss her
When she pushes you or hits you like a dummie cause she thinks shes stronger than you
Grab her and dont let go
When she starts cursing at you trying to act all tough
Kiss her and tell her you love her
When she's quiet
Ask her whats wrong
When she ignores you
Give her your attention
When she pulls away
Pull her back
When you see her at her worst
Tell her she's beautiful
When you see her start crying
Just hold her and don't say a word
When you see her walking
Sneak up and hug her waist from behind
When she's scared
Protect her
When she steals your favorite hoodie
Let her keep it and sleep with it for a night
When she teases you
Tease her back and make her laugh
When she doesn't answer for a long time
reassure her that everything is okay
When she looks at you with doubt
Back yourself up
When she says that she loves you
she really does more than you can understand
When she grabs at your hands
Hold her's and play with her fingers
When she bumps into you;
bump into her back and make her laugh
When she tells you a secret
keep it safe and untold
When she looks at you in your eyes
dont look away until she does
When she says it's over
she still wants you to be hers
When she reposts this bulletin
she wants you to read it
- Stay on the phone with her even if she's not saying anything
- When she's mad hug her tight and don't let go
- When she says she's ok don't believe it, talk with her because 10 yrs later she'll remember you
- Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her
-Treat her like she's all that matters to you
- Stay up all night with her when she's sick
- Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think it's stupid
- Give her the world.
- Let her wear your clothes
-When she's bored and sad, hang out with her
-Let her know she's important.
- Don't talk about other girls around her
- Kiss her in the pouring rain
- When she runs up to you crying, the first thing you say is:
"Whose ass am i kicking baby?"
If you do post this in the next four minutes the one you love will :
Call you
Kiss you
Love you
Text you
Guys post as: "I'd be this Boyfriend.
Girls post as: "A real boyfriend"
and if you do not re-post this within 4 minutes and tag 13 people.
you'll have bad luck
with the one you love
This is so cool, minus the bad luck part at the end, of course. But yeah. Really nice.
Aww I love this.
You posted it did it work? Smile!
aww i saw this, now if only men were like that..
Good advice, but you lost me at the forward this part. I'll just pretend this wasn't actually a chain forward and simply keep the advice.
If only it was that easy.
They're all useful things to keep in mind, but to be able to do each and every one of them when a girl is hoping for those sort of things, one would have to be so atuned to the girl's every action that it would be akin to mind reading. Still, it's good advice.
That isn't the problem, the problem is that not every guy can do that; so for girls to expect it, is rather futile. No guy can do all of those things at the exact right moment, we'd have to have no emotions whatsoever, sometimes your having a bad day, and you can't be perfectly atentive, shit happens. But its required, plus, if you do all of these things, every time they're called for, and only these things, every time they're called for, where's the fun? It beccomes routine, and not only does it become boring to both of you, it eventually won't mean as much, because its what you always do.
I think the best advice anyone can give for being a good boyfriend, is be yourself, and use your imagination. Do what is unexpected, not what is expected.
For instance, everyone gets flowers on february second, its expected. But a random day when nothing is happening, like april 21st or something, that is unexpected. I would think it is much better to get what is unexpected, than it is to get something that everyone else is getting on the same day.
Of course, I'm not a girl, so you may disagree with me all you females out there.
If I have to do this anyone who knows me knows I'll be single for a long time.
Agreed with Jared and cody. No one can do all those things whenever it's wanted, and if you always get what you want, that turns you in to a spoiled douchebag anyway. And who wants to date a spoiled douchebag? Not me. And the chain letter part makes this thing look even less credible. As Cody said, why do things just because society demands them? You might as well date a robot if that's what you are after.
Here's an idea. Instead of being one of these mindless sheep, why not do something special on a day other than VD? I would think that it would mean more to most women if you did something romantic just for the hell of it as opposed to because society says you should. That's not to say you should disregard VD, but that something bigger that totally catches one by surprise I think would be ideal. Well, unless that surprise is something unwanted, like walking in on the dog licking peanut butter off your balls.
Scott, in todays society, that may very well be wanted by some people. There are some freaky people out there, but thats beside the point. Glad you agree with me.
to the males who think girls would rather the unexpected...right on!!! *smiles* I know that's true for me at least.
I agree being a sheep is boring!
Yep. Being sheeple is boring. The tips are sweet but I'd go insane if a guy tried to accomplish all of them.
agree on co dee, what is not expected is what it mean by surprise. to be a real boyfriend or girlfriend is simply by being you and add some romance sparks on it. for example giving some sort of surprise in a normal day, or just show you're care will meant alot. if there's an advice on how to be a good boyfriend or girlfriend, or partner or any of those sort, and one follows as exact as it told, that person is definitely a robot.
you do things for your partner because you want it to, not because you got told to do. and if i expected that my partner will do this or that to me by any given day of the advice, i'll feel rather boring and unlifefull
Agreed with Cody and Scott. No one can do all these things. No one should have to. It's too much to live up to. They're sweet, and some of them are useful, it is true. I guess you have to take the good and realistic from that list and use it, and dismiss the unrealistic stuff. The other thing that list doesn't take into account is that men and women are all different. Or, since this list focuses on women, I'll say all women are different. Not every woman would like it if her guy did all these things. That, and the chain letter crap at the end kind of ruined it for me, I have to admit. I hate stuff like that.
Yeah I understand.. I mean it would be nice if a guy would some of these things, but I know that guys would get so sick of girls if they had to do those things 24/7
Whoever writes pieces like this either knows how to make people go awww very easily, else they're great at creating fantasies of supposed perfection. This is a fantasy meant for you to wish for what you don't have and wish for if-only and if-only. I don't think any real human can live up to this, and I would suspect anyone who did must have some sort of emotional issues. I'm all about being nice and caring and attentive, but dammit there's such a thing as being smothering. A man, as well as a woman, needs their own life and interests and should not focus their every molecule on the other person. We all need our space to breathe and get done what needs to get done. Plus, think about it. Whoever the woman is in this piece sounds mightily volatile to me. Now, maybe I'm just spoiled because my fiancee is a much more down-to-earth and stable person, but she doesn't believe in playing mind games and so forth. Plus, if this is advice, how do we know it's credible. Is the author of the original piece any expert on relationships, or just rrelaying daydreams.
First off, I'd like to say fuck Valentine's Day!
Kody and Scott, I could not agree with the both of you more! Being surprised is usually nice, and these are impossible guidelines to follow 100% all the time.
I would much rather be alone if I was crying; and if I'm ignoring you, why would you waste your time giving me attention? Too, I would never hit, push around, or curse and shout at my boyfriend. That is not respectful, and I would most certainly not want him to do that to me. And I'm one of those rare types that don't like to be complimented, so telling me I'm beautiful will only get a Um ... what the hell? type look out of me.
Also, why does this piece tell guys to follow mixed messages? If someone tells me their okay, they must be okay, so I would leave them alone. If someone was ending a relationship, then it would be over. Say what you mean, and mean what you say. Sending mixed messages is what fucks people up, and I've learned that from other people's experiences.
Advice on these types of things just shouldn't be given because it really depends on a person's personality, preferences, and dislikes as to how a significant other should or is expected to react to certain behaviors.
i agree with Cody Scott and everyone else who agreed with them. as a female i don't expect any of that lovey dovey/romantic stuff from a boyfriend, nor do i think guys should be expected to be that way either. i think that if a relationship is going to work, it should be equal, not up to one sex to please the other just because it's required by society. i mean, why should it always be up to the guys to try and be all romantic, when girls are quite capable to be romantic to?
Amen! That's what I'm talking about! I hate double standards.
Same here. 120% from both all the time. :) LOL, besides, I don't like all the romance crap either. Oh a compliment or romantic surprise on occasions is nice, but I want my husband to do them because he wants to, (then I know he means them) not because he has to, (because then I wonder if he actually does mean it). So, in short, agreed with the others who've posted against all of this advice.
While I'll admit i like romance my deffinission of romance may be different than any other zoner's. I'm not romantic in a material way but am an emotional person, but sometimes the emotions mean that list of things would do nothing but tick me off. for example.
If I have a crappy day at work, and then come inside to my sweety saying you're quiet what's wrong. What's wrong. trying to hug me I'd end up snarling at him because sometimes people need to talk when they are ready. I don't like forwards for this reason. I'm an indevidual. so i'm out now that I'm sheeple to everyone else on this board.
bah bye
You'll know if she truly loves you if she excepts you for who you are. Faults and all.
the list was cool! but really. i'm a remanic. kkind of woman. but dam.
Now a similar type deal was written in the 1950s telling women to do all the guy wanted, then the feminists called it objectification and treating her like a machine.
If they're right, they're right: They are now objectifying by wanting this. You can't have it both ways, no matter how you want to toy with emotions all the time.
What women like this need is some artificially intelligent robot, just like some creeper guys just need a blow-up doll.
Same thing, only society doesn't have a cultural taboo on it, llike they do the blow-up doll. Doesn't make it the least bit different, though.
Oh and if you ever read about women feeling upset at the Camelot and the Madona concept (maternal and lover), what we have here, kiddies, is the opposite: have both daddy and lover all in one.
As I always say, you can never have it both ways: ever.
Can we say "Where have all the gentleman gone?" It's so funny hearing some of this. Honestly, I think fiminism is bull anyway. If you are a big time fiminist, please do not read fairy tales to your children or let them go see Disney movies because prince charming is all throughout. Heck, it's all throughout our culture, and we must not want to get rid of it too badly because it's not gone. I'm sorry, but I think most women want to be taken care of at some point or other, and most women do want it both ways I agree. Now back to the original topic. I do think most women say one thing but mean another. I do! However, the original post was a stereotypical woman, and to say "I'm not a stereotypical woman," is not entirely the truth. You may not be one all the time, but there's a reason why the stereotype is still around. I actually liked this post until it became obvious that it was a chain email thing which I hate. I do agree that humans do complicate this though. No guy could seriously do all this, but you know, I'd like to see a post on a "real girlfriend." That's what I want to see.
OK two points:
Where have all the gentlemen gone?
Well. There are things I will do for certain people, namely my wife, because of who she is. Not just because she was born a woman, but because of who she is, plain and simple. I happen to be one of those people who'll hold the door for man or beast trying to get through with a load or whatever. Been smacked by a feminist for it, and gotten an odd look from a 'princess' when the person benefitting from the dorr opening was a guy. Do I feel, and sometimes act, protectively of the wife and daughter? Absolutely. Not in any way to hinder their movements or cramp their wings, but yes. Can it be misinterpreted? Sure. But couldn't the opposite be interpreted?
Makes me civil, don't know whether it makes a gentleman or not.
On the second point, women saying one thing and meaning another, my daughter pulled that and I said: Ok, if you really mean that, you mean nobody can trust you. Is that what you mean? People trust people who do what they say, say what they mean, and don't expect everyone to read minds.
The spoiled girl effect is no better than the poor blindy effect, except it's culturally more accepted. It is, however, made of the same stuff.
I agree. What I meant about "Where have the gentlemen gone," was there's a board on the SSS that has that title. It's so weird what women want from men. I'm sorry, but I would HATE to be a guy. Whew,
It has good advice..
I like romance too, but too much is too much..
Not to mention if i say back off it means back off.
Agreed with Scott and Cody. Surprises are definitely fun. It's cute, though. Lol. Except for the stupid chain letter part. Oh well.
It's cute minus the chainletter thing..lol..It's nice advice but I agree with whoever talked about the whole mindreading thing..
I'm with those who say the unexpected things are the best. I like some of the points, but as others have said, nobody can do all those things, and if you do, you're not real. You're a model.
O yeah, and I lost so much respect for it when the whole chain letter came into play. God, I hate those things.
I want to add this to the post damit, I do mean damit! while I do not mind doing this sometime, I personally do not have the energy, need my space, and have my own geeky, gaming side that needs to come out of the closet here and there. If not, we have a prob, and I do mean we have a prob.
I can't stand spoiled childish women who think a guy should think the way they do and be able to participate in their rediculous little mind games. To me it should be an equal deal. Sorry if I sound harsh, but women aren't any more special than men and shouldn't expect to be treated as such. A relationship goes both ways. So, if I see an "A real Girlfriend" topic on here I might be able to work with it.
here's a real girlfriend for you, to give you a taste of the other side:
when he wants to watch his TV shows, not only should you hand him the remote without question, but if he needs anything, you should get it for him so he doesn't miss his show.
if he tells you he's hungry, go make him some food. don't make him wait, dammit!
whenever he goes out with his buddies, keep in mind that he can and will stay out longer than you want him to. If he comes home late, don't say a word.
whenever he is in the mood for sex, you'd better push yourself, unless you are physically incapable of doing so.
whenever he gets angry, be patient with him. let him express his anger however he sees fit, even if it means hitting you. After all, he isn't putting you in the hospital, is he?
he doesn't need to spend any more time with you than he wants to. Stop being so clingy.
He doesn't need to communicate with you. Instead, learn to read his signs.
if you are communicating with any human being besides him, it had better be another girl, and if he asks you to get off the phone, comply.
That isn't real or even ideal. Ever heard of the book or movie called The Stepford Wives? Look it up.
I actually found a lot of this kind of cute. I have to agree with the others about valentines day though. It's just an over rated day for hallmark to earn a ton of money off cards. anyway, yeah I always thought why should everyone get flowers or something really special and romantic on a day like valentines day when if you actually loved the person you were with you would give them something any time of the year, no matter the day.
Well, in that case, why not give your loved ones a gift any time of the year instead of waiting for Christmas?
And, I'm sure all of that was meant to be sarcastic. Or at least I hope so.
I really don't know if I should take this seriously or say "omg omg omg I love this, let me repost it so I don't get bad luck tee-hee." Gorsh damn.
yeah exactly why not. I mean sure give them gifts on christmas, but why should you wait til christmas to give them gifts in the first place? It doesn't hurt to give them something small now and again. You should always appreciate your loved ones and the things they do no matter what time of the year.
I'm with Jess! Valentines Day pretty much single-handedly keeps jewelers, flower shops, nicknack stores, and chocolateers in business lol!! But on a more serious note, I'm in complete agreement with those who voiced opposition to reading the mind of their significant other. Relationships are give and take, and neither person should be expected to cater to the other's needs all of the time and keeping his/her own needs and/or grevances silent. Respect should be given at all times by both parties. Using manipulation through mind games, guilt trips, or threats of ending a relationship to get one's way or win an arguement should never be tolerated by either party involved in a relationship. Those are just my thoughts on the matter.
Sometimes, there are obvious advantages in being gay. I looked at that list, and I now realize why so many straight guys come crying to me about how they feel like such a low-life, not being able to keep their woman happy.
And where the hell is my beer? I mean buy a guy a beer now and than please!
Oops, I meant damnit!
Christ some of you here are even more cynical than I am. Y'all make me feel like Polyanna here. You can think what you will about holidays, but let me offer up a tiny mental snack please? Part of the reason why people give gifts on holidays instead of any old ordinary day is that, for one thing, despite what you might believe, holidays are opportunities for people to do things they would not ordinarily do. They're a break from the humdrum routine. Also, I'm not ready to believe that people are somehow forced or otherwise give gifts unwillingly or are otherwise compelled by big business to do so. I love not only receiving gifts but also giving them, and they're not expensive. A little DVD, some chocolate, even a gift card. Anybody who believes the only gift worth giving is one that'll put you in debt is somebody you don't need to be involved with. I agree, if you're single and unattached, Valentine's Day sucks. This is when perhaps you just get yourself a gift, pamper yourself a bit, or find a friend, preferably of the gender that interests you and give them a little box of chocolates or just hang out. One never knows, in time friendship can develop naturally into something more. But if not, you can sit alone thinking holidays are just brainwashing attempts by big business, then you take out a marriage license out on your conspiracy theories. LOL!
And weekends were made fore Micalode. Smile. Tomorrows Friday?
ugh. The original post has it all wrong. What's with the mind games? I am wholeheartedly convinced that good communication in a relationship is key. I used to be that girl; The one who wanted my boyfriend to read my mind, the one who gave him mixed messages... But it almost cost me my relationship, and I''ll tell you what--I grew up good and quick. lol
If a chick can't tell her man how she really feels and expects him to guess, then she's being a coward and has issues with self-expression. It's a challenge to open up to someone you love sometimes, when you've had your guard up for a while, but dammit, it's important. Why confuse someone? That's such a waiste of time.
And I like the whole surprise thing better than the holiday gift giving thing myself. My BF and I boycott valentines day, and instead, we get each other little gifts throughout the year just because. And it's so much sweeter that way.
Nuff said. lol.
I'm lucky my wife discovered, and I don't know how long ago, but she knows that hinting around to get what you want or otherwise obscuring communication doesn't work. If you want something from a man, say it plain and clear, not because you're supposed to believe your man is stupid, but because it's better for communications all around.